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What Silence Culture Teaches Men | On Dismantling Gender-Based Violence

A group of male friends sit and catch up on the different elements of their lives. Two are in serious relationships while the other three are caught up in...

fentse_writes 4 min read · 1 month ago

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A group of male friends sit and catch up on the different elements of their lives. Two are in serious relationships while the other three are caught up in different situationships. flings, reconciliations with exes and just a general distaste for women.

As they speak amongst each other, one notes something quite concerning but it passes over their heads before they begin speaking about the usual - alcohol, baddies, money, and hosting.

No one actually heard what was concerning and the specific man hasn't made it a point to repeat himself. They all just think it's another random "crazy" girl, and so the conversation shifts, as it always does. What they don't realise is that they've in fact labelled every single girl as "crazy". Anything that doesn't work in their favour or anyone who doesn't bend to the rules established by this clique is automatically disregarded.

One day it's about a girl being mad that you'd rather meet her at your place than out for lunch. The next day, it's about sex with your ex being bad and how her body has changed. The other day, it's about a girl you deemed unattractive sitting with with you find attractive. The list continues. You keep degrading women. The requirements are that:

Your ex needs to work on herself.
Girls must stop expecting men to be ATMS when they can't "give it up".
If you're ugly, you need to stay home because no one would be willing to pair up with you in a group full of pretty women.
If you're a woman who is progressive or shares her opinions on social media, you're going to be a headache.
You need to understand that it's not "not all men" who commit violent crimes.
If you're not "marriage material", don't expect to be taken seriously.